I don't know if you can choose to make anything happen faster. But you can try and explain the scale you're working on. For the smaller things, anyway.
[As for traumatizing people, well. Loki switches from a vaguely thoughtful and philosophical tone to a more reflective one.]
When you've experienced trauma yourself, it's all the more horrifying to realize you've caused someone else that pain. Perhaps even moreso if you genuinely didn't think about it at the time.
[He pauses, choosing his words carefully.]
I think, in my case, I sometimes have...forgotten that other people are actually people. For all that I use their individual expectations and emotions against them, I lose sight of the fact that their experiences are actually...real.
Oddly enough, I think slowing down has actually helped with that more than anything else.
Yeah, it's stupid easy for me to get caught up in the moment filled with excitement and horniness and not even realize that the other person I'm crushing on doesn't feel that way.
Shit.
May have to break out the spray bottle for real this time.
I'm basically in the market for a lobotomy but I know from Hange that I tend to go for the nuclear option when half-measures work just as well and aren't as extreme.
They're getting off track.] The point is, you could ask. And listen to what they say. It's not all that fun with someone who's not actually interested.
Honestly, if you manage it, you'll likely do exponentially better overall. There's likely some who might have been interested but were intimidated by your approach. Or disgusted.
That said, I'm sure I've seen worse. I more than once had to make apologies on my brother's or his friends' behalf when they were too drunk to do any proper wooing.
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[As for traumatizing people, well. Loki switches from a vaguely thoughtful and philosophical tone to a more reflective one.]
When you've experienced trauma yourself, it's all the more horrifying to realize you've caused someone else that pain. Perhaps even moreso if you genuinely didn't think about it at the time.
[He pauses, choosing his words carefully.]
I think, in my case, I sometimes have...forgotten that other people are actually people. For all that I use their individual expectations and emotions against them, I lose sight of the fact that their experiences are actually...real.
Oddly enough, I think slowing down has actually helped with that more than anything else.
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Yeah, it's stupid easy for me to get caught up in the moment filled with excitement and horniness and not even realize that the other person I'm crushing on doesn't feel that way.
Shit.
May have to break out the spray bottle for real this time.
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Are you suggesting the entire barge be armed with spray bottles just in case?
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Where's that machine from A Clockwork Orange when you need it?
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Self-control is significantly less traumatic for you, I would think.
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[He feels like he lost the thread at some point.]
If castration is your thing, that seems to be missing the point.
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I'm basically in the market for a lobotomy but I know from Hange that I tend to go for the nuclear option when half-measures work just as well and aren't as extreme.
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[He hesitates, not sure if this is a terrible suggestion in the long run, but it would at least slow things down significantly.]
You could just ask. If you find someone attractive, ask them if they might be interested in you. If they say no, go...do something else?
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Pssh. What?
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They're getting off track.] The point is, you could ask. And listen to what they say. It's not all that fun with someone who's not actually interested.
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That said, I'm sure I've seen worse. I more than once had to make apologies on my brother's or his friends' behalf when they were too drunk to do any proper wooing.
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I feel like I'd be hiding who I am.
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